Its crazy that in this life, only one thing is guaranteed. That nothing can stay the same. Everything natural is created to grow, evolve and to move. Yet change can still be one of the most overwhelming things we as humans can go through, even though its a part of us. As soon as we enter the world change is the first thing we experience, the move from inside to the outside world. As we grow up we see change in our environment, change in seasons, change in our skills, interests, personality, change in the people that surround us. We are taught that we change our clothes for each occasion, change our hairstyle, change our minds . As we are growing into ourselves we live for change, always looking for new ways we can reinvent ourselves and what else we can discover through changing our daily routines. We crave the excitement and new experiences.
Yet when we get older, its like it gets harder to leave your comfort zone and change becomes more of a hindrance than an excitement. The longer you are in a routine for, the harder it is to get out of. Our brain has learnt that change is inevitable and that it must constantly learn to adjust and carry on, but yet we still mourn for the life we could of had. When a situation doesn’t go our way, how we wanted it to all turn out, part of us still resists. We dig our heels in to the ground, begging for life to pause for a moment so we can bury our heads in the memories of what we just lost. The moments that we cant get back, and the people that were only meant to pass through our story for a brief period of time. The scariest thing is never knowing whether you have already experienced the best of something that you can never get back. Our fears will try to tell us that without what we have lost, we are less than what we were. Even when we know that it is all connected as part of a bigger picture, when you cant see the end result its hard to appreciate all the trials, heartbreaks, false hopes and things that didn’t work out as part of your journey.
“Change is painful, but nothing is as painful as being stuck somewhere you don’t belong.”
If only it was easy to recognise that we have created new space to move forward, without clinging on to what we have to move past. Everyday we are presented with more choices, opportunities and feelings. Our brain decides which it wants to take, and most of the time our heart is left to suffer. We flow through each part of life recognising that every different level requires us to level up ourselves, we’ve seen it so many times, we’ve felt the hurt, and we’ve celebrated making it out the other side, only for the process to start all over again.
So why is change still so hard for us to grasp as inevitable. Why can we accept it and acknowledge it, but when we experience it every fibre in our body tells us to stop, while only a tiny part of us tells us to go? Why is it so hard to tell if we are running away from something or running towards something? Imagine it to be so simple as to just flow freely through life with open arms, letting go of the past with ease and welcoming the future with an open heart. As easy as inhaling and exhaling. We are more connected with the past than we are with our hope for the future. We are obsessed with being in control, like the way we try to take control of the planet when really the planet is in control of us. To relinquish our control we feel is to relinquish our power. We hold on to anything that brought us comfort as so if we never feel it again, we can always remember the moments where we felt content, before our lives were upturned once more.